Though I'm pretty sure there are times when maybe she feels a bit smothered by my affections!. I've only been with my J-girlfriend for over a year now.īut I must say that I really do love her to bits!. & I wouldn't be saying it if I didn't mean it.īut there's *definitely* something in the Japanese mindset that doesn't like to hear such open admissions of love like that. saying "I love you" isn't exactly something that anyone takes lightly. & I remember being out with my J-girlfriend with a J-friend of hers & her friend saying (in Japanese) that I was something along those lines. What you are saying about if a J-woman hears "I love you" all the time from someone they would just think of them as a playboy sounds pretty right!. Making love *has* to include touchy affectionate stuff in my mind!. The thought of making love without huggling & cuddling & little kisses afterwards (as completely lame as that might sound coming from a guy!) makes me feel kinda sad!
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or after being in a relationship for a while?īeing touchy/feely is very important to me!. When you say "after being with" do you mean after they have had sex with. so I'm not going to pry into your personal life. I once had a Japanese person tell me that if I man kept saying "I love you", they would think of him as a playboy. Mainly, I believe they trust that the other person loves them and to them, showing that much affection and saying "I love you" all the time is too much.
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some kind gesture(not in the physical sense)). I think to them, actions speak louder than words(i.e. I must admit that I'm very emotional and affectionate, and sometimes it is very difficult for me to look past the more stereotypical passive way the Japanese have for showing affections. He can still get touchy-feely sometimes, but now, he is more into the conservative, bread-winner mode than touchy-feely, overly affectionate mode. I think it definitely goes both ways.Īs I've said many times before, my husband was very affectionate and "hands on"(and not shy about it) while we were dating and in the early stages of marriage. I have had western men tell me that after being with their J-woman that they found them to be just as cold as they once thought J-men were. but that he was really very unaffectionate & awkward in. & she found that he *said* that he loved her & lots of nice things all the time. My sister was kinda going out with a Japanese work mate of mine. I haven't heard of any Japanese man who is so affectioante & passionate!. I think what you say is true about the men though. I'm just speaking from personal experience!) (On the other hand I have heard people say that the exact opposite is the case. but when it's just two people they are really quite playful & actually, alot more errr. at least from my experience, Japanese women tend to be very unaffectionate around other Japanese. but I think the teenagers & 20 somethings growing up now especially.
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please share them!Īlso, you all say that Japanese aren't as affectionate as Westerners. Thank you very much for explaining that & helping me out!.